I just found this on my computer by Stephanie Gray
On Assisted Suicide and Perspective: A Practical Response
by Stephanie Gray (www.stephaniegray.info)
Last Friday as I flew to Texas to
speak at a mother-daughter event, I stared out the airplane window at the
majesty of the setting sun which had painted the sky red, yellow, orange, and
blue in a breathtaking scene of beauty, and my mind wandered to a stark
contrast: the turmoil going on back in my own country. February 6 was a
dark day for Canada, for it was the day our Supreme Court
overturned the law prohibiting assisted suicide.
In between flights that day, I
saw my newsfeed and e-mail filled with messages of deep sadness, fear, and
dread. These were, and are, healthy reactions to a horrifying decision
that attacks the dignity of the person.
Now that the news has settled
over the weekend, it is good to take a moment to reflect on the importance
of perspective. Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl, in his book Man’s
Search for Meaning, reminds us of a truth we must cling to during these dark
days: “Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of
the human freedoms—to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances.”
The bad news is that the sick and
vulnerable are in danger in Canada. The good news is that we are in
control of our response to this horrible set of circumstances. No judge
or government or individual can take away how we respond. So a question
each one of us must ask is this: Are the sick and vulnerable, in my circle
of influence, in danger? Each of us determines the answer to that
question.
Consider Lord of the Rings, a
story revolving around a young hobbit, Frodo, who inherits the Ring of Power
and who is charged with the grave responsibility of transporting it to a
volcano to destroy it. At one point, Frodo laments, “I wish the ring
had never come to me. I wish none of this had happened.” And the
wizard Gandalf, replies, “So do all who live to see such times. But that
is not for them to decide. All we have to decide is what to do with the
time that is given to us.”
That is perspective. And
that is what we must continue to come back to in light of the Supreme Court’s
decision. While it is understandable that we lament, “I wish the court
had never decided this. I wish euthanasia didn’t happen in Canada,” we should
focus more on how we have the power to decide what to do with the time that is
given to us, how we can choose our attitude in this present circumstance.
So what are we going to do with
the time that is given to us?
I heartily recommend supporting
worthy causes like The Euthanasia Prevention Coalition. Then, when it
comes to a practical level, I think our primary response to Friday’s decision
should be to love more deeply, and influence more positively, the people around
us. If no one asks for assisted suicide, and if strong people protect
weak people from medical personnel who would be tempted to kill the vulnerable,
assisted suicide and euthanasia won’t happen. So what does that
mean? Each of us, in our particular circle of influence, should seek out
those around us who we can 1) be a friend to and 2) be an advocate for.
Many years ago, pro-life
speaker Camille Pauley spoke about how she visited an elderly,
unresponsive man in a hospital. She spent time visiting him not for
herself, but for him. It didn’t matter that he couldn’t hold a
conversation with her, because what mattered was that she communicated, by her
time and presence and love, that he was valuable, that he was unrepeatable and
irreplaceable, and that he had dignity by his very existence, not by anything
he could do. By simply “Being With” (the name of the program she
developed for this very outreach), she affirmed his worth. If someone is
not made to feel like they are a burden, but instead made to feel that they are
worthy of our time, they are unlikely to ask for assisted suicide.
Practically speaking, I think we
all could do an inventory of our family and friends and think about one or two
in our circle who most need special attention, and then be intentional about
spending more time with them. We could also seek out one or two people we
don’t yet know that we will make time for. I recently sent this message
to my pastor and encourage others to copy and paste the same:
In light of the Supreme Court's
decision to overturn Canada's prohibition on assisted suicide, I believe one of
the best ways we can respond to this horrible ruling is for everyone to make
sure that the people in their circles of influence don't ever ask for assisted
suicide--to make sure that everyone in our circles of influence feels loved and
supported and cared for.
So in asking, “What can I do?” it
occurred to me that there could be someone at our church who is an elderly or
disabled person who is shut in with no family or friends who could use some
visits and help. So I was wondering if you know of a parishioner like
this who could be blessed by someone forming a friendship to spend time with
them? If so, could you please connect me to them?
Alternatively, signing up to
visit at a local elderly home is another practical way to be present and loving
to the vulnerable.
Besides being a friend, we also
need to be an advocate. The dictionary defines this as “a person who speaks or
writes in support or defense of a person.” If one of your family or
friends is hospitalized, are you equipped to ask the right questions and seek
out the right information to ensure their medical treatment is handled in an
ethical fashion? Several years ago I took a certification course in healthcare
ethics through the National Catholic Bioethics Center (NCBC) in Philadelphia. Thanks
to NCBC’s resources, when my friend with a brain tumor was facing possible
end-of-life issues, I was able to share their advice for ethical
decision-making with his wife.
Whether you know how to ethically
handle end-of-life care (e.g., how does one determine whether an intervention
is proportionate versus disproportionate?), or whether you know where to
look for what is the right course of action, another important point for
consideration is this: do you have the legal power to ensure the right thing is
done for your loved ones? Last night I confirmed that I have Power of
Attorney for my parents should they ever be incapable of making medical
decisions on their behalf. This was a legal document I signed several
years ago and you can bet, should it ever need to be enforced, that I will make
decisions on their behalf that respect their dignity. You can bet I will
ensure doctors respond by alleviating suffering, not eliminating the sufferer.
If you are a health care
professional, you can advocate for your patients by practicing ethically and
not allowing the Supreme Court’s decision to cause you to do anything different
except that it motivates you to be more loving, attentive, and compassionate,
someone who exemplifies what it means to be a part of a healing profession.
When we are tempted to be
overwhelmed by the gravity and far-reaching consequences of the Supreme Court’s
decision, let us remember that we are in control of our response. Rather
than despairing or being overwhelmed, let us remember the words of Bishop
Untener of Michigan who said, “We cannot do everything, and there is a sense of
liberation in realizing that. This enables us to do something, and to do
it very well.”
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